I don’t know if you have figured it out, but my physical appearance isn’t tailored for looks, regardless of how ironic that may seem. This is in response to comments on my pictures about cutting my hair, shaving or not shaving my chest, needing to get bigger, or that I’m too skinny…etc…
This may be deflating, but I don’t do any of those things to try and impress anyone else, build appeal, or gain followers. Simply, it isn’t for you…
If I tried to fit my look to the whim of others, I would lose my mind, as many models do. I am going to be me, through and through and hopefully you follow me because something about who I am does something for you. Small cosmetic changes shouldn’t affect whether you like someone or not. Their character, morals and habits are what make a person, not their hair style, or the clothes they wear. I do things that make me happy and I wear clothes I am comfortable in. I workout because of how it makes me feel, not because of aesthetics. The side affect of being visually appealing is great, but if that was my goal, the results would be empty and trivial. I would be chasing an image, an unattainable goal to be the prettiest, or the most fit based on the opinion of others. This is a fools errand, because it can never truly be achieved.
There will always be someone better looking, stronger, more fit, or just more successful in whatever facet of life I am basing my confidence or harboring my self esteem. This is a great way to have your world crumble around you, constantly working through extreme ups and absolute lows. I don’t base my world on the opinions of others and instead, I focus on becoming the best version of me I possibly can. That is one category I can confidently take solace in. No one will ever be better at being me, than me. The interesting thing about living your life this way is that you are immediately liberated from the worry of your perception in the eyes of others. As long as I maintain a life that I can be proud of, I don’t have to worry about what someone else is thinking about me.
This liberation also happens to be exactly what we need in order to focus on our life with enough intensity to reach our goals and eventually, will even allow us to become one of those that others measure themselves by. This isn’t why we do it, but it is a side effect. The coolest and most successful people, the ones we all look up to, all spent a long time walking to the beat of their own drum in the shadows, out side the glitter of the lime light. They worked on their craft and honed their skills until they could no longer be ignored.
I am focused on making my life beautiful. I am chasing my dreams and I don’t have time, or the energy to worry about whether I am trendy or popular. I am just me. All of my true supporters are aware of this and if you didn’t know before, well, you know now. I do care about everyone that supports and follows me and I do my best to provide content that is appealing and helpful, but it will always be within the parameters that make me who I am. So, for those of you who feel obligated to tell me about your preferences concerning my physical appearance, just know that I don’t care to hear it, nor will it ever make me want to change.
If you must know, I decided that when I got out of the military I would grow my hair until I could donate it and Im doing this silly thing where I actually do what I say. Weird, I know. So if your comment is negative, kindly keep it to yourself.